Thursday, October 11, 2012

Anger reminder

I was having a conversation with one of the troop people at Boy Scouts this evening. She told me there would be an awards ceremony coming up in another couple of Saturdays. I don't think Trevor has even been to one of these ceremonies in the last few years. They are usually on the weekends and the kids spend most weekends with TheEx.  And it got me all pissed off again, I give the kids to her every weekend because she didn't like only seeing them every other weekend. I can understand that, I would feel the same way. Where I get pissed off is where I sign them up for scouts and sports and then when they fall on the weekends, she's to lazy to bring them. What pisses me off even more is the excuse she usually uses is she doesn't have the money for gas. Yet, her husband (the JackAss), drives back and forth to Ft. Wayne (about an hour, one way) for work. And they just moved further away from her work so it’s probably half an hour drive one way for her as well.  Then with all the complaining about money, they eat out with the kids, or go places.  Don't get me wrong, I'm glad she does things with the kids, but how about supporting them in their activities to.  I don't know that she has been to any of their scouting activities. She does come to a few of their baseball/softball games as long as they are at the home park, but if it's any further than that, you can count her out.

For the record, the whole reason she uses the money excuse is because a year ago I took her for child support because she wasn't paying the few things she was supposed to that we agreed on when we separated. So essentially, she punishes the kids because I begged the judge and was awarded a whopping $27/week.

The sad thing is, if you ask the kids about me, they’d reference school, scouts and sports.  Those things don’t even get associated with her.  So I have them when there are activities during the week, and they get to hang out and do stuff on the weekends with their mom.  I know that this is just the way it is, but it sucks.

They love her to death, because they don't realize what little she does for them. I'm waiting for the day when it happens and it bites her in the ass. Samantha sees some of it now and it's only a matter of time before she starts acting out towards her. I can't wait for that glorious day.

As far as the awards ceremony, I don't think I'm working that Saturday. Maybe I'll see if I can take him. It sucks being the responsible parent.

I’m sorry for bitching to you, but I typed up most of this while Trevor was doing his Boy Scouts.  They had an outside project so I sat in the car and typed on the Kindle.  I did listen to music to so you get a track of the day to go with the bitching.


I selected this song (Black Hole Sun by Soundgarden) just because while I do like it, it reminds me of this song.


  1. I'm blessed that after twenty years and three kids the husband and I are some how still making everything work together. I can only imagine how frustrating this must be. Stay strong!

    1. Thanks. You are blessed. I just have to stay strong until the kids are older. My brother is dealing with the same thing and his daughter is now 13 and doesn't like going to her mom's so I know it will eventually change when they get old enough. I just hope that comes sooner rather than later.