Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Here we go again

I’m at a loss at what I should do.  First a little backstory.  On Mother’s day, the kids were with their mom (theEx) and being a Sunday and a school night, we were meeting at the normal time of 7 to get the kids back.  Trevor is one of those kids where he has to get his sleep or he doesn’t function well and his bedtime on a school night is 8.  Around 5 o’clock Sunday evening, theEx sends a text asking if she can keep them till 9.  I called her and told her 7:30 at the latest, she told me it was Mother’s day and she was keeping them longer.  She has had them since Saturday so it’s not like they were there for a limited time.  I told her that if they weren’t home by 7:30 then we would go back to her only having them every other weekend.  She said that she would see me in court and then hung up on me.  A little while later I sent her a text that said drop them off at the apartment no later than 9.

She ended up dropping them off at 9:10 and once they were home, I sent her another text that said I plan on keeping with what I said, if you want to keep them every weekend, then you and I need to have a sit down, face to face.  I told her what days I worked and to let me know when we could get together.  She never responded, all week for that matter.  I haven’t heard from her since.  I’ve heard from the JackAss.  If you follow me on my Facebook page then you already know this but he called the next day, said he didn’t know why we couldn’t get along.  I proceeded to tell him that I have no reason to get along with him, and he was the reason I didn’t anyways because he can’t stop texting me.  He then tried to put the blame on me for everything and I essentially told him he was a Jack Ass and I have no need for him.  He told me that I don’t need to talk to my ex again, that anything I have to say has to go through him to her.  He then told me that I don’t know who I am dealing with and that I should watch my back.  Then hung up, just like theEx did the day before.

So this weekend rolls around, she never contacts me about the kids.  I kept them all weekend and had a good time doing so.  Now here it is on Wednesday and I still haven’t heard from her.  Now I’m wondering what to do about this coming weekend.  I really want to just keep them again until she contacts me, but I also feel bad for keeping the kids from her.  I know the majority of this isn’t her, it’s him.  The only thing she has done is gotten into a controlling relationship and refuses to fight back.  I think the JackAss doesn’t want her to have the kids and that’s why he does what he does.  I don’t want to take the kids from her, but I get so tired of being treated like I’m being treated.  Anytime the kids have a day off school, I ask her if she wants to keep them.  I do everything I can to give her as much time with the kids as possible.  But I’m done being the guy giving her all the info so she could have the kids more to someone who may not even want her kids.  She does nothing for them on my end, she never asks about how they’re doing in school, she never asks about kids functions unless the kids beg her to go.  But yet, when I do talk to her “I miss my kids.”  I have never denied her from calling or texting the kids and yet, she never even tries.  I’ve told her anytime during the week, if she wants to take them for a few hours to just let me know.  She never has.

So maybe this is what she wants, maybe she wants me to take them away.  But I just can’t see anyone doing that and I can’t see doing that to my kids.  So I guess I’ll have to go out of my way, for the kids, certainly not for her.


  1. You're a good dad for putting the well-being of your children above all other concerns. You should consider documenting your involvement with your children, not only for your own protection but for your kid's.