So my ex hasn't paid support in over 3 years. She gets arrested on other warrants in February of this year. While in custody, another court date is spit out in regards to her not paying support. That all is supposed to happen.
Court date was March 16th. Everything pretty much went my way until the very end when the judge told her that he was granting a continuance in order for her to get an attorney because he doesn't think she realizes how much trouble she's in.
New court date, May 15th. On May 10th, they file for another continuance and it is granted.
New court date, June 5th. June 5th never comes to be because of another continuance.
New court date, June 19th. We actually go to this court date, only for it to be continued again until October 23rd because she is trying to claim disability on why she can't work and we have to wait until she gets approved or denied. She pays $1000 towards her back support after this hearing.
On July 10th, she files a motion to have her child support lowered, court date is set for August 28th. I assume she can only ask for this because of the one payment of $1000 that she paid at the last court date.
So today, I go to court for the motion to modify support. Basically, they say she can't pay so they would like it to be $0. Because they are waiting on disability, she can't work, so she can't pay. The judge asks if I have anything to say, my response "It's not about having the money, it's about priorities. She's paying for her own lawyer. 3 weeks ago they went on a vacation to Myrtle Beach. She's choosing not to pay."
What comes of that? She no longer has to pay support until our next hearing on January 8th. They cancelled the one in October as well.
In summary, she gets arrested for not paying support in February of this year, and not a thing will happen to her until at least January of next year. To be honest, I doubt that anything will happen to her then. Meanwhile, I'm the one supporting everything. So tell me, how is this judicial system set up for the children?
I don't even blame the judge because I think if he could, he would rule in my favor, you can tell he's sick of her crap as well. It's the system that has him handcuffed. It's ridiculous.
She still gets her normal visitation only now, she doesn't have to pay me a dime. She gets to sit on her ass while all of us working people get to pay her bills. It's a wonderful fucking system we have.
That really sucks. I'm sorry she's such a deadbeat and the system isn't holding her accountable. My nephew is going through a similar thing with his divorce. Hopefully they get your ex to pay up or pay the consequences.
ReplyDeleteIt just gets old, I've used 4 of my vacation days to go to court that hasn't accomplished anything.
DeleteThe judicial system is definitely not set up in favor of the children, the lawyers are the only winners because they get paid, the more continuances they file the longer the case lasts, these lawyers get their money defending people who pay more for their services than if they simply paid their responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you are are getting jerked around by people playing the system, this sucks.
On the positive side, she hasn't payed in 3 years so it's not like I'm missing out on anything.
DeleteThe kids will realize all of this one day! Just keep taking care of them. I am glad they have you!
ReplyDeleteThanks. My daughter has already figured it out, she wants very little to do with her. My son, on the other hand, is a momma's boy and I don't know if he'll ever figure it out.
DeleteI'm with Paula ~ the kids will figure it out, and in the meantime they have a caring, loving Dad. I know it's frustrating. When crap like that happens to me, I try to sit back and let karma do the rest. :-)
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