We'll see how long this time

Wow! It's been 224 days since I posted last here. I have more going on in my life than I did back then but it still isn't a whole lot. I do actually leave the house more often on the weekends because my cousin moved back up here from North Carolina. We're both into sports cards so we hook up and do related things that I won't get into now because I'm going to try to post more about that when it happens.

Kind of looks like me, if he was fatter.

As far as going on's, the majority of my life is still work, which I won't (can't) post about here. It's going ok, I like what I do and there are days where I feel important in the cog of the machine but there are a lot of things that piss me off as well. My company is a pretty big company and they watch social media, which is why I don't post about work. I'm not really one to bitch about work to the masses anyways. I rarely bitch about work to my wife because I have a 45 minute drive home and I relax and let it all go in that time so by the time I get home, I don't want to talk about it and I've forgotten the majority of it.

Back in our younger days.

My wife and I are still going strong after over a decade (doesn't feel like it's been that long). We have our issues like any married couple does but again, nothing that I would want to post on social media. We both still love each other and enjoy our life together so you can't really get better than that.

Not a good likeness, but it's clipart.

My 19 year old has now moved out and on her own. She's like any typical 19 year old who complains about life but doesn't do any of the steps that she needs to do to improve it. We give her all the tips to help her, she listens intently but never does them. Like I said, typical 19 year old.

My 17 year old is doing great in school. Taking Engineering classes at the career center so we're hoping that's a field that he continues on in college. At this point, we're hoping he just doesn't decide to make the decision to not go to college. He's too smart to waste the opportunity but we know how teenagers make decisions. He's been working for the same fast food place now since he was 16 and he likes it there. He has been promoted to an assistant manager which he enjoys as well.

My other love is music. I love listening to music and do it all the time. You know I'm a stats guy so I can even tell you that I listen to around 1,000 songs a week. Sometimes under a bit, sometimes over. (I'm listening to music now.) So I'm going to try to post something tomorrow, probably music related.

I know I've said it a hundred times, but I'm going to try to be better here. I post almost daily on My Sports Obsession and Random Music so I don't know why I can't do the same thing here. Hopefully, starting tomorrow.

Here's to a new run of posts!

A Week in the Life of

I'm still finding my way around these posts. They are essentially what happened in the last week. I haven't really had an order to them yet. I just went through my "A Day in the Life" posts to see if I had anything to talk about this week. I'm not going to rehash my Instagram posts, you can follow me on there if you want to see my post a day.

Monday night we didn't have much to walk so I searched for a movie. If I don't already know of a movie, I just pick one of the streaming services or on demand and go through it until we find one. We ended up watching Unknown, I believe it was on Netflix. It stars Liam Neeson and we hadn't seen it so we figured why not. It wasn't anything special but it was a decent movie. Enough to entertain us for just under 2 hours.

Had Taco Bell this week. If you don't know my history with Taco Bell, here's a quick reference. Used to love it, had it all the time (see my stats post). Last year they took a bunch of stuff off their menu, including most of my usual order. Haven't been going there nearly as much but my wife likes the Queserito so I would just grab some chili cheese burritos. The problem with that is her order can only be ordered through the app, not a problem, use it anyways, but the chili cheese burritos aren't on the app, no idea why. So basically I get annoyed every time I go there because I have to do an online order as well as one at the drive-thru. When I get to the last window, they'll hand me one order and I always have to explain that the next one is mine as well. Like I said, it was just annoying.

Well this week when we grabbed it, I noticed a Club Chalupa and tried it. It was pretty good so I can order that now instead of having 2 orders. They also announced that they were bringing back their Cheesy Fiesta Potatoes which is one of the items they took away that I liked. So my Taco Bell intake is looking up. I just hope the Club Chalupa isn't a promotional, it wasn't listed there on the app so I think it might be a regular menu item.

I pass a mall on the way home from work and it's a dead mall (see above). A really dead mall. There are only a few stores left in it besides the anchors (JC Penny and Hobby Lobby). There are supposed to be 4 anchor stores and even 2 of those are empty. Basically, it makes it nice to walk, not many people and warmer than walking outside right now. I see more mall walkers than customers. I ended up walking 3 days last week. I started Tuesday, went back on Wednesday. Thursday my sister-in-law and niece were visiting my wife so I came straight home after work to see them. My wife tends to visit all of her family in the middle of the week while I'm at work so I don't see them often. My mom ended up meeting me out there and we walked on Friday. I went over 2 miles each day which is my goal, for now. 

Part of the problem I have with walking at home (other than it's winter right now) is by the time I get home, I just want to shower and relax so I talk myself out of walking. That's the main thing on why this mall walking might be good for me. We'll see how long I sustain it though, because to be honest, I really don't enjoy walking.

We had to work yesterday (Saturday) and I might have stopped there on the way home but I had made plans to have lunch with my youngest daughter. Her girlfriend and my wife, neither care for Hacienda and we both like it so we tend to go there. It's the second time we've done it, I'm going to try to make it a regular thing. Every month or two or something. Otherwise, I don't see her much as she doesn't visit us much more. Even though she is in the area all the time. Damn kids!

I ended up walking 7.75 miles at the mall this week. Hopefully I can make it a regular thing since last time I went to the doc, for the first time I was over 300 lbs. Being 6'3" helps we wear it better than most but I would like to get rid of some of my gut. I've been pretty steady in the 290's for a long time so it's not like I put on a ton of weight but there's something about that number, 300 pounds just seems like a lot.

Not to much going on at work. The city surprised us with an inspection on Wednesday. During our Q&A, he mentioned that he only schedules us for an hour because he knows the walk through never takes long because we are always on point. He said some places he goes he has to schedule 4 hours. Everything went well, he even contacted our EHS coordinator and told her that he was impressed with our staff (which is me and our EHS person) so that's always good to hear.

The wife and I went out Friday night, it seems to be becoming a regular thing where we drop my son off at work and than go to 5-Guys burger and fries (they have curb side pick-up) and than we just sit in the parking lot in our car and have supper. Afterwards we run down to Steak 'N Shake and grab a couple of shakes, and again, sit in the parking lot and have our dessert. It really is the perfect date night for us. We enjoy the food and I would rather sit in the car, listen to our tunes and enjoy a meal than be stuck in a restaurant where people are annoying and it's usually loud so you can't really talk that well. My wife has issues with a lot of noise, it makes it hard to focus when there is a lot going on so it's a nice date night for us. We can even stay in our PJ's which is what we tend to do. Don't worry, our PJ shirts are regular shirts so you won't notice unless you see our PJ bottoms.

Not sure how much this will continue though because my son is taking his driver's test on Tuesday. Hopefully, he'll pass it so we don't have to drive him anymore. The taking him isn't a big deal. The picking him up between 10 and 11 pm is because on work nights, I'm in bed around 10 and my wife has trouble driving at night. She goes and gets him, luckily traffic isn't really bad and it's not real far. Her eyes have issues with the lights coming at her as they don't dilate very quick so she can't go from darkness and than a light in her face.

I guess that's all for last week. No real plans as of this week other than my son's driving test. Hopefully see you all back here next week.

New Family Member

I didn't post one of these posts last week because I did my annual stats post which takes some time to set up but I did post. I just went back and looked at my posts in January each year and it's usually higher than most months. The last few years it's been almost half the posts that I put out for the year so I'm guessing I usually tell myself this year, I'm going to make sure I post and by the time February hits, I've stopped. Hopefully this year will be different.

One thing I have been doing so far this year, is using my Instagram account. I send out daily Snaps on Snapchat to my daughter and my mom (called streaks) so I said how hard would it be to take a daily photo on Instagram, so that's what I'm doing. I used to have a widget over there on the right side but it stopped working awhile ago. I tried updating it but apparently everybody wants money for it so screw them. I'll just post the content right here. I do encourage you to go to my Instagram and follow along. You can click the Instagram icon above this paragraph to go to it. So here's getting you caught up since the 1st, next week, I'll just do the past week.

January 1st we had freezing rain and the 2nd it all got covered with snow.

     

January 3rd is our cat in her princess pose, January 4th I had to go back to work.

January 5th was my first Tuesday morning Taco Bell breakfast, the 6th we brought home a new dog.

January 7th is our cat again, in her daily position on my recliner, the 8th I tried to visit my daughter at work.

Yesterday, the 9th, I wore my new hoodie.

As you can see, nothing really exciting but a little look into my life. I haven't taken a photo for today yet so I guess you'll see that next week or on Instagram later.

Milo, Duke, Kitty and Trevor

On Monday, we drove to Michigan City to see "Dude" at the local human society. We were looking for a companion for our dog Milo. We wanted someone that would play with him but also be a pretty chill dog as we have a pretty quiet household. On Tuesday morning, we got the call that we were selected to take him home so we drove out again to pick him up. We took Milo with us so they could meet and that went well but they really wanted us to bring 2 cars to take him home. Well, it's an hour drive and because of my wife's MS, she can't drive at night because her eyes don't react quick enough to the lights coming at her. So we took my son and told them we'll be good, we brought the teenager to separate them if we need to so we eventually talked them into letting us bring him home. They both pretty much laid on each side of him all the way home. You wouldn't have even known there were dogs in the car.

He's a German Shepherd/Lab mix. He is a pretty sweet guy, he likes to cuddle more than Milo. Although we did have to change his name, we didn't want to because if he's used to a name, it would be cruel to change it but we couldn't leave it Dude because my wife uses that word so we change it to Duke so it sounded the same and he wouldn't be confused. 

My wife has occasional doubts on whether it was the right decision or not. She's a very clean person, likes things orderly and in their place and Milo was pretty good about that, Duke, not so much. When he drinks he walks away from his bowl and drops water all over the place. He licks himself on the couch and leaves big wet spots so stuff like that just drive her nuts. We moved all the squeaky toys downstairs and kept the noise free, rope ones up here because they like to tug against each other.

They've been good for each other though and Milo is definitely playing a lot more than he was which is good for him. 

Ignore my wife's meds.

That's what has consumed our week so far, it's starting to get into a normal routine more and more each day and than we won't even think about it.

A Week in the Life of Me

Not too much going on so this may be a quick post, it may not, once I get typing, you never know.

We watched the season finale of the Mandalorian yesterday and it was pretty awesome. I hope Disney does just as well with their other Star Wars shows they plan on putting out. I don't want to spoil it but the ending of the finale was so cool, and was such a good ending. I can't wait to see what the next season entails.

We're in the middle of the final season of Homeland. They finally put it on Hulu with the rest of the seasons. We may even finish that this weekend. Other than that, a lot of the other stuff we watch is on winter hiatus. None of my sports teams are even on for another week, Christmas day at that.

At work, we finished a 5S project that we've spent the last month working on. I got volunteered for the the project, I think, because we were doing the battery/chemical storage room and the majority of the chemicals in that room are mine. We got all kinds of compliments about how great it looked now. We'll see how long it stays that way. 

I'm officially a 5S Champion now.

We we're supposed to meet every day for half an hour and work on the room and there was originally supposed to be 4 of us but the team member from one department quit right away. Another department's guy would show up every day, 10 to 15 minutes late and than leave right at the end of the half an hour. Me and another guy would be there almost an hour a day working on it. On Friday, the day of recognition, where they brought in management to see what we did, the late guy was there before me and I'm always early. Pissed me off but I didn't say anything, I just look like the asshole if I do.

I guess where I work is changing their logo so now I'm going to have a lot of clothes that are outdated. That's alright, because other than a couple of hoodies, everything with their logo on it I wear to work anyways. I've accumulated quite a few things with their logo in the 6 1/2 years I've been there. The basic shirt is the logo on the front top left and the core values on the back. I have 5 gray ones and 3 black ones of that. I have a red volunteer shirt, a green company picnic one and 2 black breast cancer ones. I also have 2 hoodies that I love, because they fit great and are so comfortable. I wear one back and forth to work in the winter and the other I wear around the house (I have it on now). All that doesn't include the keychain, backpack and multiple hats. The nicest thing about having all those is I didn't pay anything for them, they were all given to me so I can't complain about that. Next week is the last week before Christmas so I'm curious if they'll give us something else. The last 3 years were the hoodies and last year was a hat. With the way this year has gone though it wouldn't surprise me if we didn't get anything but they did go around asking everyone their shirt size awhile back so we'll see.

As busy as we are this year, we didn't get our usual 2 weeks off at Christmas but I had enough time saved up to take the last week off so after the 3 days this week, I'll be done until the first week of January. I have no plans but it'll be nice not having to go to work.

Not sure what I'm going to watch with all that time off but I'm sure we can find something.

Santa came to work on Friday.

So far the plan is we are still getting together for Christmas. We didn't get together for Thanksgiving with all the Covid outbreaks but it's been relatively quite lately. I was even worried about going on Thanksgiving just because a ton of people at work were coming down with it and I didn't want to bring it in to everyone. Of course it didn't end up mattering since the majority of my family have gotten it. Nobody in my household or my mom's household has but a lot of the extended family has.

December 14th (2020)

My wife sent this photo of her and the cat. Kitty doesn't usually allow us to hold her for very long anymore.

December 15th (2012)

This is my oldest daughter holding Kitty back in 2012, I would say she's probably the reason Kitty doesn't like to be held but I don't really remember her ever liking it.

December 16th (2011)

This was taken back in 2011, my youngest son was into Lego's big time and they had a Lego thingy outside Chicago and we took him up there. He absolutely loved it. He wasn't even into Star Wars when I made him take this but he is now so it worked out.

December 18th (2009)

My wife (back then my girlfriend) sent this to me. We started dating long distance so this is what we did. We were young(er) and in love, we were probably nauseating to most.

December 18th (2019)

I snapped this in a meeting last year, it's how much my work paid out in workers comp claims. Notice the biggest number in the orange, oops. That's from when I burned myself with Sulfuric acid. Nothing like getting called out in a meeting you're sitting in.

December 20th (2019)

Me and Santa at work last year. I think he grew this year. I looked a little "special" in this photo.

I'll probably post again next week since I have time off so I'll talk to you all then.

Damn Teenagers

I feel like I should post here but I don't really have much to say. I probably feel that way because I told a guy at work that I post here and I know he went to the blog, whether or not he does again is the question.

I got a few issues I guess I can discuss. The first being my teenage daughter. She's a good kid as far as getting into trouble and doing things she's not supposed to do but I worry about her for other reasons. She is so co-dependent with her girlfriend that she has no other friends and has no desire to have any friends. Now, part of that is my fault because I don't really hang out with anyone other than my wife but it's not like I go out of my way to not have friends. I have friends at work, people I talk to, I go golfing once a week with a guy from work. The difference between herself and I is that I don't turn down things when people invite me to do things. Whether my wife goes or not, I'll go without her. Samantha has absolutely nothing to do with anyone unless there is a reason she can't be talking to her girlfriend. Her girlfriend was away for 4 or 5 days, all of the sudden, she's hanging out with another friend. As soon as her girlfriend is available again, haven't seen the friend since.

That's not the part that worries me the most. The part that worries more is her need for drama. If you're a regular reader (if I still have any), I have access to her phone and anytime I think I need to check it, I check it. Well, while her girlfriend was gone (she was in the hospital without her phone), she would text her only it wasn't, just thinking about you, or hope you're getting better or something like that. She talked about how horrible she's doing. I'm so lost without you, I'm so bad off that my friend has to hang out with me. That's an issue, it's all about her. Now, she's not that way with us much because we'll call her out on it but the need for everything to be about her is ridiculous. I'll be honest, I used to love to hang out with her, now, not so much.

She likes to tell people that she's just like me. Um, no you aren't. I don't have to rely on anyone else to make myself feel good. I love being alone and having alone time. I hate drama and want nothing to do with it. I go eat by myself, I've gone to the movies by myself. If you're not with your girlfriend, you're hiding in your room.

Don't get me wrong, I love her with all my heart but if I were honest, I'm just looking forward to her growing up and getting out of this "teenage" phase so I can have some kind of relationship with her again. This, you don't understand mental illness stage has got to go. It's time for her to grow up and realize her "life" is exactly where she's putting herself. I try to give advice but she doesn't want to listen. She's a teenager, she knows everything.

I guess had more to say about that than I thought so I'll leave this post at that.

Not so great week

It hasn't been a great week for me, hopefully things will get better.

Monday I went to work to find out one of my friends died early that morning. He was having chest pains and we believe he was driving himself to the hospital when he had a horrible crash. Coroner believes he died of a heart attack before the crash so he didn't suffer in that. He was only 52. It's been a pretty somber week at work.

On Tuesday, my boss informed me that he put in his 2 weeks notice. This boss is the reason I have the job I do. We worked at a different place together for 15 years and than I left and eventually he left and than he got me transferred to where I'm at. I really like the job and it's been great for us. I can survive without him. I can still contact him and will probably see him a little but what fears me more is who we end up with as a boss. I think I'm going to put in for the job but I doubt I'll get it. I'm not "enthusiastic" enough for them.

Wednesday I went golfing so there is that. Not that I had a great day golfing but it's always nice to be out there.

Thursday my daughter was all kinds of attitude because my wife texted her and told her not to make plans tonight so they could complete their chores. Than later on, I texted them not to make plans for Saturday because we were all going to work in the yard. She gets pissed at the stupidest things and just carries it forever instead of just letting things go. Chores are weekly and we ask the kids to help us in the yard once a year, in the spring. She acts like we make her do all kinds of things. Their chores took an hour and the yard work was maybe 3 hours. Heaven forbid we ask for 4 hours out of her life. Stupid teenagers.

Friday, I got off work early and came home to my wife asking me to run to Walmart to pick up groceries because they were ready. No biggy, it's right up the road. Pull up, check in and they bring it all out and load the car. Wrong! I pull up and check in to only realize that she put the wrong Walmart address in so I ended up having to drive all the way out to a further one, about 20 minutes. As I'm pulling in, I get a call from the wife, saying she just got a call from the school and the girl we have living with us was in an "incident" and that we needed to come in. Now we figured she got in a fight because they wouldn't tell us what was going on. So we weren't in a hurry. I drove home from Walmart, unloaded the groceries and picked up my wife and than headed for the school. We pull in to ambulances and a cop car. We go in and they tell us that she got in a fight in the lunch room and punched a boy. What was worse is that she punched a wall when she left the lunch room and broke her hand. The school talked the parents of the kid to not press charges because she is 18 and the kid she hit wasn't yet so she could have been in huge trouble. They threatened to file charges on him because of the hate stuff coming out of his mouth that instigated the fight. Once we were done at the school, we took her to the ER to get her hand wrapped and we have to take her to an Orthopedic doc on Tuesday, which is the same day as my court date for child support and my friends funeral. So it continues.

Saturday we got some yard work done, kids all helped and had good attitudes. It was a good day and I haven't done anything today so things are already starting to look up.

On top of all of this, Cheri has been in a lot of pain and fighting a lot of headaches. She's been diagnosed with arthritis in her spine and neck to go along with all her other disabilities. What's worse than the arthritis is it tends to give her headaches, which turn in to migraines.

We'll see if I get through tomorrow with the usual festivities of Memorial Day. We spend the morning at a parade and than caravan around to a couple of cemeteries where we have family buried before going to my cousins for a cook out. I already told you what I got going Tuesday. Wednesday I go back to work, Thursday I have an EHS conference to go to and then more work Friday. Here's hoping next week is quick and painless.

2 1/2 Months?

Has it really been since March that posted last? Yikes! I guess I'll do a random post since it's been awhile.

Samantha is now working at one of the local Subways and has been for a month or so. She's been doing really good as far as I can tell. From my end, she's always ready to go and on time and she doesn't complain about having to go. She's only 15 so she's limited on what she can do, she can't run the oven (which is essentially a microwave) and other things but she can make sandwiches and help customers which is where it will help her in the long run. I've been proud of her for getting and keeping the job. She just found out her store is closing but they are letting her transfer to another store and that one ends up being closer to home anyways so I'm good with that.

Trevor is growing up, his voice is getting deeper and he's got some peach fuzz on his lip. Ever since we took him off his meds, his personality has really started to come out. Makes me feel bad that he was on it all those years but I do think it was helping him with his focus, we just didn't realize what it was suppressing. Either that or he's just growing up and changing, who knows. All I know is I have more of a relationship with him now because he actually talks to us. He's also getting quite a bit taller. Hasn't caught up with me yet, if he ever does, but he's hitting a growth spurt.

My job has gone well, I've actually moved up and am in charge of the wastewater area on all 3 shifts. I'm still doing all the lab work as well so I definitely stay busy. I'm now on flex hours which means I can work anytime I want as long as I put my hours in. I pretty much go in the same time as I always have but most days I stay past 2 to finish things up. I think how nice it would be to not go in early but then I think how much it sucks to work later in the day. So even on Sunday nights and I don't get to bed until after midnight, I still get up at a quarter till 5 and go in.

Because of the promotion, I have to go to meetings occasionally as well. Some I don't mind, some I could do without. I haven't gotten stuck with a bunch like I thought I would though so that's good.

Day 510 - Denver, CO (1665.4 miles)

I haven't actually been wearing my Fitbit for the last couple of weeks. I'm not sure why but all of the sudden, it's making my skin break out when I wear it so I stopped. I originally moved it to my other wrist just to let the one heal but the other one started breaking out so I just took it off. Since then, I've been using the Samsung Health app to count my steps. I'm sure it's nowhere near as accurate but it's all I have.

You can see that I'm in Denver, CO which was my next stop on my stadium tour. It's been almost 500 miles since my last stadium because as you can tell, I'm heading out west which means lots of space. I headed here to Coors Field and then headed out to my next destination and happened to pass a few others.

I always thought Denver was surrounded my mountains, it is the Mile High city after all but it's not. Heading towards the city was completely flat and upon looking at the map, it's right on the edge of the Rockies. Guess doing this is educational as well.

Coors field looks really nice on the outside. I love all the brick around the outside.

Apparently within 2 miles of each other is Coors Field, Pepsi Center and Mile High Stadium. I didn't actually walk down to those stadiums though, just went past them.

So I went by the Colorado Rockies stadium (Coors Field), the Denver Nuggets (the Pepsi Center) and the Denver Broncos (Mile High Stadium) all in one day.

1. Guaranteed Rate Field (Chicago White Sox - MLB)
2. Soldier Field (Chicago Bears - NFL)
3. Ryan Field (Northwestern Wildcates - B1G)
4. Wrigley Field (Chicago Cubs - MLB)
5. Miller Park (Milwaukee Brewers - MLB)
6. Camp Randall (Wisconsin Badgers - B1G)
7. TCF Bank Stadium (Minnesota Golden Gophers - B1G)
8. Target Field (Minnesota Twins - MLB)
9. Kinnick Stadium (Iowa Hawkeyes - B1G)
10. Memorial Stadium (Nebraska Cornhuskers - B1G)
11. Coors Field (Colorado Rockies - MLB)
12. Pepsi Center (Denver Nuggets - NBA)
13. Mile High Stadium (Denver Broncoes - NFL)

My goal is to hit all the Big Ten (B1G) and MLB stadiums but as you can see, I've passed a few others as well. I also had a goal of 1,500 miles in a year.

Goal - 1500 miles (4.1 miles/day)

Currently - 487 miles (3.36 miles/day)

Not doing so well, as you can tell. I'm actually down .2 miles/day from last time I posted about this. My walking is down some from work, it's still averaging over 8,000 a day but barely. Not enough to make up for my lazy weekends.

My next stadium won't be for awhile as I heading to the far Northwest and then I'll come back South and hit everything in the lower half of the country as I make my way back East. I may be done in the next few years.

Saturday, Sleeping and Samantha

Since I wasn't going to be at work all day, I didn't pack anything for food or drink. Since it was Saturday, there was little to no traffic at all. Because of both of those situations that I hadn't thought about when I set my alarm, I ended up getting to work a half an hour before my start time. That's alright though, I just chilled in my car and listened to music.

I went in to decant 3 tanks and fill them back up and add Sufuric so they would be ready to use for 2nd shift. Except that when I got there, apparently 3rd shift had finished everything that needed to be done so 2nd shift wasn't coming in. So now I didn't need to fill up the tanks because we were going to be shutdown for 2 weeks and we have to pump them around to different tanks so they can work on the tanks. I only got 2 of the tanks decanted before I ran out of room in waste treatment. Since I wasn't having to fill them up, I got done pretty quickly and was out of there after only 2 hrs and 45 minutes. Part of that time was spent talking to the general manager about all the stuff going on with the line.

I came home, showered and then started to watch stuff on the DVR but I only got through 1 show before I was dozing off. I knew since I was tired already that I wasn't going to make it through the day. Cheri was tired to so we went to take a nap. Only what I wanted was an hour or so nap ended up being about 4 hours so now I'm pretty sure I'll be up most of the night.

Samantha is spending the weekend at a friends house and the winter formal is tonight so they got dressed and did their make up and all that without anything from us. Whatever. I'm a little annoyed by it but that's what she wanted. It was a cute dress but I wasn't impressed with her hair or make up. It just wasn't really her. She tends to be more "dark" and goth type when she hangs out with this certain friend. She wasn't going with any boys, so she says, so we'll see.